a person harmed, injured, or killed as a result of a crime, accident, or other event or action.
a person who is tricked or duped.
a person who has come to feel helpless and passive in the face of misfortune or ill-treatment.
I have been struggling for the last week. The slightest thing has brought me to tears. I have felt like I am losing it. I felt I had reached the limits of my ability to cope. The court proceedings are really taking their toll.
And then I had a realisation.
The problem I have been having started with writing the Victim Personal Statement. This is a statement about how stuff has affected me that I will read out in court at the start of the trial. I had to write about how my life had been impacted by everything.
That's a word that keeps getting used in this process.
I am not a victim though. I have never seen myself as a victim. I don't like the word.
By labelling me that, in this process, it has made me begin to adopt the label. This is the power it has to be put in a box.
There was a video shared on here the other day about a guy who had been wrongly imprisoned for 20+ years. His attitude? Just because I was in prison, doesn't mean I was a prisoner. (I tried to find the video to share but can’t I’m afraid)
So this is what I am working on. Just because the system defines me as a victim, doesn't mean I am a victim. That is their label not mine.
I am not there yet...but I'm one step closer and things are getting easier each day because of it