Remember the challenge we had with school?
Basically, after her teacher was ill and the headmaster took class for a couple of days, the little one went right off school. She was scared of him because he had “shouted” at her at a time where he was clearly flustered.
I worked hard to reframe the experience for her so that she could look at it in a different way.
Well I think there has been enough time passed now to give a decent update.
It was unfortunate that we had to break up for the school holidays over Christmas before things had fully settled. She had reached the stage where she was happy with the thought of going to school, she was happy up until she reached the classroom but at that point she was still having a wibble and hiding behind the hubby or me – particularly if she saw the head.
But there were no tears. She was asking to go to school.There was just that one little trigger left over. It’s amazing how little time these things take to form and how long they can take to rectify.
But there is one significant thing I am learning on this Cognitive Hypnotherapy course and that’s to be patient.
Hmm…yes…patience is never something I’ve been particularly good at.
But these changes take time. We are reprogramming from one behaviour to another totally different one and it takes a while to learn how to react and feel once the old triggers are gone.
I know for me, one of the biggest challenges in my personal journey has been looking at the world in such a different way and learning how to respond now some of the old blocks have been cleared out of the way.
So over Christmas she had time.
By the middle of the first week off she was asking if she could go to school, all day, every day.
Since she went back at the end of last week she has been loving every second. So much so that she didn’t even want to leave today!
So I think we have conquered it. She still hides when she sees the Headmaster but she doesn’t cry any more and I know that will pass in time.
