Phase 1- Just together “I love you”
You stay in the same room together. You talk and do stuff with each other at all times. You constantly express your love and appreciation for each other. There is no room for friends to get in between you. Your social life is each other. You constantly notice similarities in the way you think and what you like.
Phase 2 – Routine “Thanks for doing that”
You start doing more and more of your own thing. You still come together throughout the day but there are also activities that you do apart. You spend less time expressing appreciation for each other. It’s regarded as known.
Phase 3 – The bumpy bit “Why do you never listen?”
You find that you don’t want to do stuff with each other. Your interests seem different. You only seem to see the stuff that is not the same –differences in how you think and what you like doing. They annoy you but you don’t express it. You just look for evidence to reinforce it.
Phase 4 – The long haul “I was just coming to say hi on my way to the toilet”
Like a dent in the mattress you have both found your comfortable spot. You get on with your lives both separately and together. Expressions of love and affection exist but often immersed in every day life. You accept the differences as who you are and who they are.
We are in phase 4. The hubby came through to my office and gave me a hug. “What’s up?” I asked.
“Nothing” he answered “just on my way to the bog”